October! (WhiteFoxHats on Etsy)
If anyone was wondering what I’m doing with my life these days, the answer is making dozens and dozens of antlers for my Etsy shop…
so it’s that time of the year again, time to rewatch old Hammer movies and draw more haunted houses
We never say that all men deserve to feel beautiful. We never say that each man is beautiful in his own way. We don’t have huge campaigns aimed at young boys trying to convince them that they’re attractive, probably because we very rarely correlate a man’s worth with his appearance. The problem is that a woman’s value in this world is still very much attached to her appearance, and telling her that she should or deserves to feel beautiful does more to promote that than negate it. Telling women that they “deserve” to feel pretty plays right in to the idea that prettiness should be important to them. And having books and movies aimed at young women where every female protagonist turns out to be beautiful (whereas many of the antagonists are described in much less flattering terms) reinforces the message that beauty has some kind of morality attached to it, and that all heroines are somehow pretty.
This chart is pretty quick and simple, but I like this basic point it makes: single, partnered, and married people can all be available, but they also all may not be.
Wouldn’t it be nice if people started thinking less in terms of “Are you single?” and more in terms of “Are you available?” Not all single people are available to/interested in starting new relationships…and plenty of partnered people are interested in starting new relationships. But even aside from the polyamory angle, it would reduce a lot of headache for people to at least decouple “single” and “available”.
Not necessarily aro, but definitely aro-relevant. I hate listing myself as “single” because it gives the impression I’m available, which is not the case.
latest stress relief piece!